In the mood for a sex game tonight?
Do you know that sex games aren’t a recent invention? We’ve been mixing our propensity for amorous physical activities with our competitive impulses for thousands of years.
We owe the ancient Greeks one of the very first known erotic games: the Kottabos. The hard-drinking, party-loving Hellenes Greeks often played the game during banquets, where wine always flowed aplenty.
To play the game, you fling the dregs of wine left in your cup at a target in the middle of the room. The target was usually a small disk on top of an upright pole.
You’d dedicate your attempt to a particular guest or courtesan for whom you had erotic inclinations. Odds are, you’d be competing with others for the same muse.
You and your rivals would take turns flinging wine at the target, each attempting to knock that disk off the pole. Whoever succeeded the most elegantly had a good chance of winning the chosen one.
6 Tantalizing Sex Games for You and Your Partner
Happily, today’s sex games are decidedly racier and to-the-point than the Kottabos. If you’ve never played a modern sex game before, you should give it a shot
Couples tend to lose that sense of playfulness in the bedroom as their relationships progress. Fun and sexy bedroom games are a sure way to restore that erstwhile friskiness while taking intimacy to the next level.
Below are six sex games you can try with your partner tonight – or even better, over the next six nights!
1. Start and Stop: A Remedy for Premature Ejaculation Becomes a Fun Sex Game
This sex game is gaining popularity in sexual health forums these days. Before jumping into bed with your partner for a romp, set the timer on your phone for no more than five minutes. Once the timer goes off, stop what you’re doing. Reset the timer and switch activities or positions.
The practice began in the late 1950s as a treatment for premature ejaculation. When played as a sex game, it becomes a method for couples to tease and entice each other into feverish sexual arousal.
“Nothing is more tantalizing than having something feel amazing and then taking it away,” says Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in New York City.
2. The Fantasy Fishbowl: Your Secret Desires Plucked from a Fishbowl
We came upon this sex game in a blog written by Sylvia Smith of Marriage.com. The game requires a few pieces of paper, a vessel to put them in, and an anything-goes kind of imagination and daring.
Both players write down five fantasies on five pieces of paper. You put them into a fishbowl – a small box or a hat will do fine, too – and mix them around.
You and your partner then take turns picking one. After making a selection, the chosen fantasy is what you try to recreate with your partner.
When played with the proper devil-may-care attitude, this sex game can result in some truly mind-blowing nights together.
After all, fantasies may range from the tame, like trying a new position, or the wildly kinky, like introducing a third party into the bedroom!
3. Truth or Dare: A Dual-Purpose Sex Game
If you grew up on Planet Earth, you’d know about Truth or Dare. When played as a sexy bedroom game, this old party favorite serves a dual purpose. It brings fun into the bedroom even as it increases intimacy between partners.
To play it, think up a list of questions that would allow you to better understand your partner, both in and out of the bedroom. Then conjure a list of dares that are just outside your normal bedroom routine.
“The options are limitless with this classic game,” says Wright. “Step outside of the day-to-day.”
4. The Naked Staring Contest: A Laboratory-Proven Sex Game
More than 20 years ago, psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory.
How did he do it? Aron – who is now a professor of psychology at the at Stony Brook University in New York – instructed a man and woman to enter a laboratory through separate doors. The two sat face to face and answered a series of increasingly personal questions.
They then stared silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes. The most tantalizing detail about the experiment is the fact that, six months later, the two participants were married.
Staring contests can be fun and stimulating. But the Naked Staring Contest adds a deliciously naughty edge to the game!
Get undressed and sit directly across from each other. “Think of a penalty for whoever blinks first,” says Daniel Sher, a sex educator for the Canadian sex shop, Naughty North.
Maybe that means performing an erotic massage, she continues. Maybe it means something more daring and explicit. Get creative, says the sex educator, and have fun.
The Kissing Game
We have all heard of – or played – one kind of drinking game or another. The Kissing Game is a sweet and undeniably erotic variation on one of our favorite drinking games.
Experts have noted that couples with intimacy issues don’t kiss enough. They typically stick with short pecks that do little to encourage a deeper connection. The Kissing Game offers an excellent solution.
This sex game gives couples a reason to connect on a physical level. What’s a better way to start physically connecting than kissing? Couples who love to brush lips will tell you that the intimate act of kissing often leads to more physical intimacy.
So, how do you play the game? When you and your partner are cuddled up watching a TV show, pick a word. Whenever you hear that word, kiss.
Chances are, you won’t finish the show. But then who needs television when you’re enjoying a frenzied romp with your spouse?
Sexy Role-Playing Dress-Up Game
Many happy couples know that role-playing and dress-up games are exciting ways to spice up their sex lives. Intimacy coach and author Londin Angel Winters says these games can prove to be especially satisfying for women.
Do you have a thing for men in uniform? Why not have your partner dress as a police officer and get a ticket?
“If a woman sees role-play as an opportunity to enjoy lots of different sexual energies with the same partner, she will tend to love and value role-play as a way of getting her need for variety met without having to play the field with different partners,” says Winters.
You can dress up as a nurse or – if you are more inclined to try raunchier possibilities – wear erotic lingerie and pretend you’re a BDSM mistress!
You and your partner should perform “in character” when wearing the outfits. This is likely to lead to all sorts of titillating scenarios.
Sex games add spontaneity, desire, and playfulness to your routine.
Sex games are a wonderful way to invigorate your sex life and cultivate closeness with your partner. They inject playfulness into what can otherwise become a staid routine. They “help increase desire, pleasure, and frequency,” O’Reilly says.
Spontaneity in the bedroom may require some practice and planning, but most experts agree that sex games are well worth exploring when your sex life undergoes a dry spell.
Have you and your special someone ever played a sex game? If not, what game would you like to try? If you’re a seasoned sex gamer, then we’d love to hear about that, too, in the comment section below.
