You know best when it comes to pleasuring your man. That’s why he’s your man. But we’re sure you’ll agree that there’s always room for improvement. This is especially true if you enjoy delivering a surprise in the bedroom now and then.
You don’t always need special toys to drive him wild. Some sexy lingerie always helps, of course, but the most erotic sex toy of all is already at your disposal. It’s your mouth!
We’re not talking about blowjobs and first base.
Sure, you give great head. You may have even honed your blowjob skills to perfection. The problem is, every other girl he’s ever slept in the bedroom with probably had tricks of her own down there, too.
You know about kissing, as well. But then you do know that there’s a reason why kids in high school call kissing first base, right?
There are erotic nuances to the kiss that no one dared teach you in school. Fortunately, we’re not schoolteachers here. Below are seven oral maneuvers that’ll send your man’s eyeballs rolling toward the ceiling next time you’re in the bedroom together!
1. Explore the roof of his mouth with your tongue.
So, you think you’ve explored every corner of his mouth with yours. Have you let your tongue wander to the roof of his mouth? The fact is that many women ignore this important erogenous zone.
The roof of the mouth is among the most ticklish parts of the human body. So, next time your mouths are locked, flick your tongue upward once or twice in an arc inside his mouth.
Don’t overdo it, though. A quick flick should be enough. You don’t want your man to break out in an untimely fit of giggles just as things heat-up!
2. Make noises.
Sounds obvious, right? The irony of it is that we often overlook what’s obvious in the heat of the moment. We’re not suggesting silly fake porn star-moans – but be vocal enough for him to hear.
That said, making noise in the bedroom during sex isn’t just about the sound effects. Humming, moans, and groans “create a stimulating vibration,” says Jonathan Alpert, a psychotherapist and relationship expert. They also communicate enthusiasm, which makes the experience more fun for both of you in the bedroom.
3. Tease his body with your mouth.
To build anticipation, plant light little kisses on your partner’s inner thighs and pubic mound, recommends sexologist Jess O’Reilly. Do it gently, using a naughty nibble here, a light, skimming brush of the lips there. Teasing little tongue wiggles in the right areas will make him insane with desire!
“Simply hover over them and allow gentle kisses to emanate from your lips as you awaken their nerve endings and draw awareness and circulation to the area,” says O’Reilly. “You can also use breath kisses over the entire body to build arousal and encourage full-body orgasms.
4. Don’t forget the ear.
The ear can detect the subtlest of sensations. So, when it comes to nibbling at his ears, less is more, says psychologist Sándor Gardos. Place your lips an inch away from his ear and release a slow sigh. Then, gently tug at his earlobe with your lips.
This will stimulate the nerve endings inside the ear. “These nerves are almost never stimulated, so you’ll really blow his mind when you do this,” says Gardos.
5. Pleasure his hands.
If you think kisses on the hand are only for men courting women in a bygone era, you are quite mistaken. To find out just how wrong, try this.
Place the tip of your tongue on the webbed area at the base of his fingers. From there, slowly slide your way up the side. This move will give him goosebumps.
This area is brimming with nerves and so it’s deliciously sensitive. But, like the nerves of his inner ear, it rarely gets much attention, says Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed.
Finally, to make him drool for more of you, take the tip of his finger between your lips and gently suck and tongue it. The idea here is to suggest what you might do to him down there later on. He’ll go nuts!
6. Use your hands and mouth in tandem.
Using your hands and mouth in tandem will provide even more pleasure. If your partner happens to be a woman, O’Reilly suggests sliding your hands over the clitoris or inner lips.
“Run your tongue up and down in the middle – between the inner lips – in the opposite direction,” she says. “Pay extra attention to the fourchette – the notch at the bottom where the lips meet – and the clitoral head with the tip of your tongue.”
If your partner has a penis, you can use your hands to gently but firmly grip the base of the shaft. Tease him with the tip of your tongue. Make sure you make eye contact while you do this and he’ll be moaning your name in no time.
7. Knock on his back door.
Oral sex isn’t limited to the genitals. “For both men and women, the area around the anus is filled with plenty of tiny nerve endings that feel wonderful when stimulated with the hands or tongue,” says sex therapist Laura Berman.
Just make sure you discuss this with your partner first. This is one surprise you’ll have to introduce with some clever tact. Instead of having it in the bedroom, you can shower together as foreplay, Berman says. This will help you both feel clean and comfortable.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Giving is itself is a gift?” Well, that wise observation definitely applies to oral sex. Using your mouth on your partner can be just as fun for the giver as it is for the receiver.
We’re sure you’ll both love the moves we’ve listed above. Go ahead. Take your oral game up a notch for your partner. You’ll find you’ll make things more exciting for you, as well.
